I'm going to be packing up my stuff to move to university tomorrow! 

"Anon" (tjsielsistneb) 08/16/2015 at 22:56 • Filed to: None

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And honestly I’m nervous as hell! I’m going to have two roommates I’ve never met before. Also they’re both second semester freshmen (I’m a second semester junior). To make matters worse, the dorms are co-ed and one of my roommates is a girl. I’m praying to God that she isn’t pretty because I suck at James May leves at talking to pretty girls. Also because I do not want to be temped to make a roommate a girlfriend! I’m also praying both of their parents know that it’s co-ed because I don’t want to end up in the middle of a fight. Also, I’m nervous as hell around new people. I’m just praying we all get along and can be friends. This next week is going to be interesting that’s for sure...

dogisbadob > Anon 08/16/2015 at 23:02

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Good luck, and I hope your roomates become good friends

Supreme Chancellor and Glorious Leader SaveTheIntegras > Anon 08/16/2015 at 23:03

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words of advice:

CB > Anon 08/16/2015 at 23:06

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Don’t worry, bud. I’m sure it’ll all go great.

I am not going to tell my horror stories from first year or second year or third year about roommates.

traderQAMobileTestAutomationMobileBoostOn > Anon 08/16/2015 at 23:08

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because I suck at James May leves at talking to pretty girls.

Supreme Chancellor and Glorious Leader SaveTheIntegras > traderQAMobileTestAutomationMobileBoostOn 08/16/2015 at 23:12

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Xyl0c41n3 > Anon 08/16/2015 at 23:16

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“To make matters worse, the dorms are co-ed and one of my roommates is a girl. I’m praying to God that she isn’t pretty because I suck at James May leves at talking to pretty girls. Also because I do not want to be temped to make a roommate a girlfriend!”

This is simple: try treating her like a person.

While you’re sitting there wondering if she’s hot enough to crush on, she’s probably thinking “oh god, I hope one of these guys doesn’t make it awkward and try to hit on me.”

Treat her like a person. Become her friend, if that’s what you’re both ok with, and respect her boundaries. There’s nothing worse than being forced to live with someone who thinks they’re entitled to your time and attention simply because they also think they’re entitled to find you attractive and pursue you.

So, at all times, treat her like a person — with all the dignity and respect that entails. It shouldn’t matter if you find her attractive or not. One doesn’t have to be pleasant on the eyes to be worthy of respect. Treat her like a person, and everything else will work itself out.

Cherry_man1 > Anon 08/16/2015 at 23:22

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Do not worry, just buy Fireball and then leave it in the fridge for anyone and see what happens

Anon > Xyl0c41n3 08/16/2015 at 23:26

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Of course! I was talking about in general talking to girls I don’t know I’m bad, especially if they’re pretty. I also have no expectation for them to have to find me atteactive and pursue me under any circumstances. Who someone chooses to like is their own decision. I was talking about in a situation where the feeling was mutural that it would be very tempting. I’m sorry if I gave off that impression.

Anon > Cherry_man1 08/16/2015 at 23:28

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Brilliant! That being said, I was just thinking about cooking dinner.

Short-throw Granny Shifter is 2 #blessed 2b stressed > Anon 08/16/2015 at 23:41

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Coed dorm? Looks like you’ll be holding in your farts this semester. Good luck sir.

Cherry_man1 > Anon 08/16/2015 at 23:42

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I’ll tell you this, the college girl trend is fireball = their best friend.

Also just be chill really.

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > Anon 08/17/2015 at 00:28

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I swore by the advice in this video. It saved my life. Also, it may have ended someone else’s. ANd helped me avoid classes taught by professors with ponytails.

Xyl0c41n3 > Anon 08/17/2015 at 00:31

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I wasn’t talking about you having an expectation that they find you attractive, I was talking about you feeling entitled to finding them attractive. So often, a guy will give a girl a compliment or say she’s hot or ask for her number or whatnot and then get mad if she turns him down. And usually his response is something along the lines of “but I’m giving you a compliment !” With the expectation that a compliment given should be a compliment warmly and enthusiastically received. Compliment or no, if someone (girl or guy) feels uncomfortable in a situation, back off. Respect their boundaries.

That said, I’m not at all saying you’re that kind of guy. You seem pretty chill to me. As far as talking to girls, especially ones you think are pretty, what I was saying earlier still applies: treat them like a person. Trust me, we girls are just as nervous talking to awesome guys as you are talking to us. Find something you share in common and talk about that, then build from there. If the attraction is mutual, then things should build fairly easily. :)

Good luck and have fun! College is one of the best times ever.

CB > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles 08/17/2015 at 00:36

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Holy balls is this old.

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > CB 08/17/2015 at 00:39

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holy balls its still funny.

“treat college like prison - shiv the first person who gives you any guff”

CB > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles 08/17/2015 at 00:42

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It sure is.

sebdel > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles 08/17/2015 at 00:54

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Jesus, I haven’t seen that in a while! what a simple and great idea that was.

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > sebdel 08/17/2015 at 01:01

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ask a ninja was one of the best online video series ever.

sebdel > Anon 08/17/2015 at 01:04

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It’ll be fine, when it comes to new roommates It’s a good thing you feel nervous. I’m not good with people at all, and I’m not good talking to pretty girls but I don’t get nervous, I don’t really give a damn. Don’t be like me.

Anon > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles 08/17/2015 at 01:44

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I feel scared that a ninja knew the question I was going to ask before I asked it. It’s almost like he’s a...ninja.

Tohru > Anon 08/17/2015 at 04:38

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(insert terrible suggestions full of lewd ideas)

Pabuuu, JDM car enthusiast & Italian parts hoarder > Anon 08/17/2015 at 08:33

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You and me both brother..

I will be moving to the other side of the country (3 hours away from home)

I will be living in a small room of my own, but with shared bathroom/kitchen/everything with 3 other people.. 2 boys, 2 girls.

I’m going to live there sunday.

Wrong Wheel Drive (41%) > Pabuuu, JDM car enthusiast & Italian parts hoarder 08/17/2015 at 10:06

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Haha “other side of the country” and its only 3 hours. That concept is so foreign to any of us Americans. I am sure there are plenty of people where 3 hours doesn’t even get them out of their own state! 3 hours isn’t too far from home but I suppose if you are there without a car or gas is expensive, then it could be far.

Wrong Wheel Drive (41%) > Short-throw Granny Shifter is 2 #blessed 2b stressed 08/17/2015 at 10:08

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No no, those girls will just have to become Bros as well.

Bandit > Anon 08/17/2015 at 10:33

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You’ll live Alex. If everything goes to shit talk to your RA.

Horkin' Up Dangle Hams > Anon 08/17/2015 at 11:09

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Either they are great roommates and you make friends for life; they are OK roommates and you forget them after a couple years; or they are awful and you have great stories to tell at parties for the rest of your life. Whatever happens, it will all work out in the end.

Xyl0c41n3 > Horkin' Up Dangle Hams 08/17/2015 at 11:47

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So very, very true. I had two roommates freshman year. I hardly remember a thing about one, but the other? She was a nightmare. Think of any roommate horror story you’ve ever heard, and then multiply that by 10, and then you might have an inkling of what this girl was like.

A couple of other roommates I lived with after freshman year are still friends to this day. Doesn’t matter how long it’s been since we’ve seen each other, todavía somos familia. We’re still family. :)

Xyl0c41n3 > CB 08/17/2015 at 11:48

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That’s a lot of years, CB.

CB > Xyl0c41n3 08/17/2015 at 12:01

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Here’s hoping fourth year is better!

Horkin' Up Dangle Hams > Xyl0c41n3 08/17/2015 at 23:22

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My story is very similar. First year I had 6 suite mates and a roommate. The roommate is like a my brother today and we lived together for four years of college. The suite mates are...well, I have no clue where or what they are doing haha.